Why the True Meaning of Life Eludes Sex Addicts

By Amy Sohler, MPA, MA, LMHC, CDP, MHP One of the most painful consequences of sex addiction (or, for that matter, any addiction) is that addicts who remain active in their disease create that which they fear most – isolation and loneliness. Unlike alcohol and substance abuse, though, sex… Read More

The Keys to Relationship Longevity

By Pia Mellody “What is this thing called love?” The title of an old song is still a persistent question. We’d like to believe that love is the essential ingredient in relationships and that it’ll get us through all of life’s difficulties. While love is important… Read More

Healing Past Relational Trauma with Wholehearted Presence

Dr. Jon Caldwell The swirling busyness and restless energy settled and a profound stillness permeated the room, enveloping the group like a soft feather blanket. Sitting in silence and sensing the body was unfamiliar territory for most of the two-dozen workshop participants. After all, for many of them, the body… Read More

The Link Between Attachment Styles and Mindfulness

Dr. Jon G. Caldwell, DO, PhD During a recent trip to Los Angeles California, I was aroused from early morning slumber by an eerie sensation of movement. As the veil of sleep was pulled from my mind, I gradually registered the meaning of the shaking bed beneath me and the… Read More

Don’t Underestimate Your Middle Circle Behaviors

Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, PCC, CSAT, Often, when men or women attend 12-Step meetings or therapy, they’re instructed to do the 3-circles exercise. The circle exercise involves drawing a three circles diagram representing three types of behaviors in an addict’s life. The outer circle represents healthy behaviors, the middle… Read More

The 3 C’s: Craving Loss of Control, and Negative Consequences

Many people ask how they can determine whether they have the process addiction known as sexual addiction. Theorists in the field explain that there are 3 areas that they assess to identify whether someone should be treated for sexual addiction. The framework for… Read More

Parenting with Boundaries

A frequently asked question at The Meadows is what appropriate parenting looks like and how I become a “better” parent. The Meadows’ belief is that parents typically do the best they can with what they know. However, if you were provided limited information on healthy parenting, it will be challenging… Read More

Why Wasn’t I Enough? My Experience of Working with Partners of Sex Addicts

Finding out that your committed partner has sexually betrayed you is like getting your heart ripped out, stomped on, thrown through a glass window, spit on, and perhaps lastly, smothered with gasoline and set on fire. Then, your partner asks you to forgive him or her; and you don’t think… Read More

Losing Your Best Friend

By: Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, PCC, CSAT When one decides to recover from sexual addiction, it can feel like you’ve lost your best friend. You grieve the time you spent with your addiction and the exhilarating rush you received while increasing the intensity of your desires. More than likely, you… Read More

Partners of Sex Addicts Need Boundaries Too

By Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, CSAT, PCC Sexual addiction is such a complex problem and unfortunately it like all addictive disorders effects the entire family. As I did an in-service last night for professionals that wanted to know more about the disease, I was asked if sexual addiction was… Read More